Even the best look that took forever to create can be ruined by bad body language. This instinctual nonverbal “messenger” is still the main factor that influences how others perceive us and can make people like you or, on the contrary, make you totally unattractive. Here’s a quick guide to some gestures you should avoid to always look your best.
Gripping your arm behind your back sends a strong negative signal to those around you. The higher you grab your arm, the angrier you seem to people.
Hiding your hands in your pockets means a lot of things, which is why it’s important to interpret body language as a whole. But in most cases people put their hands in their pockets when they’re nervous.
Clasped hands resting on the table is a mini-version of crossing your arms over your chest. Sitting with your fingers laced together and your hands raised off the table sends the same message: “I’m shutting myself off, and I don’t want to talk to you.”
Instead of slouching, straighten your back, look ahead of you, and pick your feet up when you walk. These tips will improve your appearance even more than a new suit or a stunning dress!
While we usually put our hands on the lips simply because we don’t know where to put our hands, it’s still a pretty intimidating pose to see on a conversation partner. We unconsciously touch our mouth when we’re lying and many people know this. Also, when you cover your mouth, it can be hard to understand what you’re saying.
Clinching your hands looks like you’re literally about to punch someone in the face or you’re ready to defend yourself.
Eye contact could be the most important part of communication. If you tend to maintain too much eye contact or you simply want to avoid doing so, try to fidget with something every once in a while, maybe lint on your pants or something in your salad. Just don’t overdo the fake distractions because you’ll seem impolite.
There have been a lot of cool psychological studies on this topic, but to keep it short: we copy people who we like, and we like people who copy us.
-When you grip your wrist or forearm behind your back, it sends a strong negative signal to those around you.
-Standing with your ankles crossed shows that you don’t completely believe in the things you’re saying.
-Clasped hands resting on the table send a message: “I’m shutting myself off, and I don’t want to talk to you.”
-The higher you place your arms on the table, the more you want to hide behind them.
-Slouching gives the impression that you feel helpless, unconfident, and miserable in life.
-People perceive such a tight-lipped smile as sarcasm and smugness.
-Sitting at a table and talking to a person with your hand extended out towards them tells your conversation partner that you want them to stop talking.
-Standing with your hands on your hips says, “Well, what do you wanna tell me? I’ll probably disagree anyway!”
-Unless you’re actually hitch-hiking, don’t point your thumb behind you while talking to someone. This gesture can often be regarded as a sign of disrespect.
-Clinching your hands reveals hidden anger and fear.
-You shouldn’t cover your mouth with your hand when you talk because the person you’re speaking with might think that you’re hiding something.
-We often shake our fingers at someone when we really want to convince someone of our point of view on a certain matter.
-Smile sincerely, don’t force or fake it. Eye contact is key. Tilt your head. Use your brows. “Mirror” the person you’re talking to.